Love Sucks…

This is for the broken hearted. I know how you feel. Empty, betrayed, and no happiness whatsoever. You don’t want to laugh, because you know it’s not going to help, but you don’t want to cry, because it will just make you feel worse. You feel like your heart is falling apart, but not only that, but you know soon your life is going to feel like it’s falling apart too. You don’t think it will ever end, and no matter what this person has done to you, it feels impossible to stop loving them. And everyone wonders why if they have hurt you so much, then why do you still love them. That’s the confusing part, you don’t know why, you just do, and the people who hurt you the most, and normally the ones you love the most. And then, after a few weeks, you finally feel a sense of relief, like you’re getting happy again, but you know inside that you’re just going into denial. And after a few more weeks, you’re back to where you were an empty soul and teary eyes. You thought you got over them, but really, you just stopped showing it. And you can’t help but to show it again. It leaves deep scars on your heart that are there forever. And no one understands how you feel, and how deep you are hurt, no matter who they are, because it hasn’t happened to them And even if it has, every broken heart is different. They don’t know the true pain you feel and carry each and everyday now, so you learn that basically you are alone with all this. And the feeling starts to overwhelm you, and suddenly you just break down, right there, because you know you’ve had enough, the tears just instantly start flowing, and you’re to the point where you don’t care who see’s. Because you’ve spent so many nights lying awake in bed, and so many days being haunted by the scars and fear of rejection. And in the midst of all these tears, you know that its not helping any, and it’s not going to bring them back, if you ever even had them in the first place. After about a million tears have been cried, you finally pull yourself back together and keep going. Your throat starts to clench and your eyes burn with the tears you are trying to hold back. Everyone says, “It will be okay…” But you know it won’t. And that’s the truth, it won’t. And you look back on all of the hurt you had from this, and you realize that people are horrible. You’re still hurt, but you’ve learned to hide it so that everyone thinks you are okay. So now every time you see this person, you know you still love them, and you feel a slight tingle in your heart yearning for them to love you, screaming out, but for some reason they don’t hear it. And then you sit back and wonder how one person could have caused all of this…

How to BREAK-UP

How to Break Up in 7 Ways…

Everybody knows that it‘s a devastating experience to be left by someone you really love, be it a break up or divorce. We all have gone through this at least one time in our life. But the fact that it is also very difficult to be the one who actually leaves is something you only know if you have experienced it.

So, the question arises: how to break up with someone?

Relationships come to an end possibly, the reasons are numerous.

They all have in common that one member of the relationship is dissatisfied and pulls back. Maybe he has tried for some time to adjust the relationship according to his wishes. If this fails, he usually quits emotionally long before the actual break up. That is often the reason why the “dumpee” has the impression that the “dumper” is cold hearted—he left mentally months ago.

How to decide if the relationship should be ended or not?

Here are some guidelines you can consider when taking into account to end a relationship:

* Does the relationship allow you to evolve according to your wishes?

* Does the relationship fulfill your needs?

* Is it possible to have goals together and achieve them?

* Does your partner accept you as you are?

* Can you resolve conflicts together?

* Are you feeling good in your relationship?

* Is the communication with your partner good?

If your answer to these question is in the majority “no” then it is probably time to move on.

So, you want to break up with your girlfriend/boyfriend and you don’t know how to do this? You’ve never done it before or wrong in the past and you could use a helping hand?

The first thing you have to realize is that there is no painless way.

It simply doesn’t exist. No magical words which take the pain away. It will hurt them and it may also hurt you. There is nothing you can do about this. You can only avoid some common mistakes and make it a little easier for them.

As you continue reading, you are about to learn the steps on how to break up with someone the best way. If you have made your decision, just use the following steps as a guideline.

How to break up with someone in 7 steps:

1. Keep a few days distance

It is very advisable to maintain some distance to your partner before you actually break up. This has many advantages. On one side you will gain some emotional distance, which is important to be able to go through the steps listed below.

On the other side, your partner will sense that something is about to happen and will hopefully emotionally prepare himself.

Just cut off contact for a week before. Do not give too much information, just say you’re busy.

2. Try to be sure about your decision

I know, that’s a tough one, especially when you love the person in question, or are very close to him/her.

Chances are that you were thinking about breaking up for a long time. You have come to the conclusion that you don’t fit together, have different expectations about life or were unable to resolve or get to the bottom of your conflicts. Maybe you have simply realized that you do not love your partner.

Either way, try to be sure that there is no chance of getting things right again. I wrote “try”, because I know that these things are not always easy to realize. You can be relatively positive on your decision, if you have tried for several times to work on your relationship by talking about your problems with your partner.

To help you with making the decision I suggest that you make a list with all the reasons why you want to break up and write a possible solution beside it. Then go through your list and reflect if you have done everything to solve the problems you’ve had.

By knowing the reasons for the upcoming break up you will on one hand be prepared for questions your partner might ask, on the other hand they will help you to cope with the break up yourself.

So, are you absolutely sure?

Next step

3. Do it in person

Always talk to your partner in person. Never use email, text messages or a letter.

I know this is tempting because it’s much easier for you, but it would also be another type of betrayal. You owe your partner that you look him in the eye when you break up with him. It’s a question of loyalty and moral—an unwritten law.

Not to speak that it’s easier for the person left behind to face the break up when you tell him/her personally.

Never walk away from this painful burden. Be fair.

4. Know what and how to say it – be prepared

This is anything but easy. You have to be well prepared—you have to know what to say in advance.

You must reckon that your partner is shocked. Even if the break up announced itself for a long time, it will come out of the blue for him/her. The “no contact” before can soften this.

There can be various reactions. Depending on the personality of your partner, there can be denial, crying, begging, aggressiveness, even abuse. Try to stay calm whatever happens. Never let this end in a fight.

Here is a short guideline how to behave when delivering the message:

* Always be understanding, no matter how your partner reacts

* Say that you are sorry that things have not worked out

* Be prepared for questions; look at your list of reasons before you meet

* Try to avoid intimate body contact

* Be confident. If you have not been dominant in your relationship, be it now

* Never be cold

5. Always be clear that it’s absolutely over

This is the most difficult part: Never ever let there be any doubt that your relationship is over.

You’ve made your decision. Be stick to it whenever you talk to your partner. Never give any hope. The clearer you are the better and easier it is for the person in the long run. Always keep in mind: there is no painless way.

This may sound coldhearted, but it isn’t. The earlier he/she accept that it is over, the earlier he/she can start the healing and separation process.

Never say:

* “maybe sometimes we could get together again”

* “A part of me still loves you”

* “I never loved anybody as I loved you”

* “ok, give me some time to think it over”

* “we can still be friends”

Even if all this was true, you must not say it loud. It doesn’t help. I know it is tempting sometimes to say all of this (especially if there are still feelings from your side). You will feel the urge to ease the pain by saying something he/she wants to hear, but this is wrong for two reasons: you are giving false hope and delaying the healing process, and you are getting off your course.

You have deliberately thought this through in step two and you have decided to break up. Don’t let anybody talk you into that decision.

There simply is no way without pain. If you are harsh then you appear heartless, if you are not firm then they think that there is still hope. This is a very narrow path.

Find a healthy way in the middle and stay the person you are.

6. Give an opportunity for closure

When you break up with someone, that person often remains in a state of shock for several days. Often he/she cannot remember what was said during the break up, let alone understand the causes or your reasons that led to it. In this case he/she will seek for closure.

Here is a definition of the term “closure”:

In psychology, closure may refer to the state of experiencing an emotional conclusion to a difficult life event, such as the breakdown of a close interpersonal relationship or the death of loved one.

By closure I mean a resolving conversation about the reasons for the break up and an opportunity to say goodbye.

After a few days (not longer) offer a dialog, a conversation where you can discuss your reasons for the break up and why you think that your relationship has been going nowhere. Often they will ask for it for themselves.

You will encounter a lot of resistance and arguments here, but that is why I asked you to make that list in step two.

Remember, the goal is not to make the other person understand, he/she will not, no matter what you say.

Understanding will not come before a period of time. Your goal is to give the feeling of an ending and a goodbye.

Try to emphasize the feeling of goodbye by wishing all your best for his/her life and deliberately leading to a parting.

This will not be easy for you, because the person is still close to your heart.

Remember: stay strong. This is important.

7. Help them with no contact

The “no contact rule” is one of the most important premises for healing from a break up.

But sometimes the urge to call or meet is so strong that many can’t resist.

Help them with this.

Do not go to places where you might meet. If they call or email you, keep the response short and non-personal. Never call, email or text message first, not even to ask how they’re feeling.

Most of the time the one who breaks up has to learn as well that it is definitely over. By following the no contact rule you help yourself and your ex-partner.

Now you have a list with 7 steps on how to break up with someone. They will make the difficult task easier for both parties.

I know that the whole process is very difficult, but please keep in mind that a broken relationship is a deadlock. Not only that it’s stopping you from living a fulfilling love life, but it also can harm you self-esteem and confidence. Not to speak about your happiness.

Once you have made the decision, act upon it.

After you have accomplished this arduous task, you are one step closer to happiness.

My current Favorite songs!(“,)

KELLY CLARKSON


“I Hate Myself For Losing You”

I woke up today
Woke up wide awake
In an empty bed
Staring at an empty room
I have myself to blame
For the state I’m in today
And now dying
Doesn’t seem so cruel
And oh, I don’t know what to say
And I don’t know anyway
Anymore

I hate myself for losing you
I’m seeing it all so clear
I hate myself for losing you
What do you do when you look in the mirror
And staring at you is why he’s not here?

You got what you deserved
Hope you’re happy now
‘Cause every time I think of her with you
It’s killing me
Inside, and
Now I dread each day
Knowing that I can’t be saved
From the loneliness
Of living without you
And, oh
I don’t know what to do
Not sure that I’ll pull through
I wish you knew

I hate myself for losing you
I’m seeing it all so clear
I hate myself for losing you
What do you do when you look in the mirror
And staring at you is why he’s not here?

I hate myself for losing you
And oh, I don’t know what to do
Not sure that I’ll pull through
I wish you knew
And oh, I don’t know what to say
And I don’t know anyway
Anymore
No, no

I hate myself for losing you
(I’m seeing it all so clear)
I’m seeing it all so clear
I hate myself for losing you
What do you do when you look in the mirror
And staring at you is why he’s not here?
What do you say when everything you said
Is the reason why he left you in the end?
How do you cry when every tear you shed
Won’t ever bring him back again?
I hate myself for loving you

“Where Is Your Heart?”

I don’t believe
In the smile that you leave
When you walk away
And say goodbye
Well I don’t expect
The world to move underneath me
But for God’s sake
Could you try?
I know that you’re true to me
You’re always there
You say you care
I know that you want to be mine

Where is your heart?
‘Cause I don’t really feel you
Where is your heart?
What I really want is to believe you
Is it so hard
To give me what I need?
I want your heart to bleed
That’s all I’m asking for
Oh, where is your heart?

I don’t understand
Your love is so cold
It’s always me that’s reaching out
For your hand
And I’ve always dreamed
That love would be effortless
Like a petal fallin’ to the ground
A dreamer followin’ his dream

Where is your heart?
‘Cause I don’t really feel you
Where is your heart?
What I really want is to believe you
Is it so hard
To give me what I need?
I want your heart to bleed
And that’s all I’m asking for
Oh, where is your heart?

It seems so much is left unsaid
So much is left unsaid
But you can say anything
Oh, anytime you need
Baby, it’s just you and me
Oh yeah

I know that you’re true to me
You’re always there
You say you care
I know that you want to be mine

Where is your heart?
‘Cause I don’t really feel you
Where is your heart?
What I really want is to believe you
Is it so hard
To give me what I need?
I want your heart to bleed
That’s all I’m asking for
Oh yeah

Where is your heart?
‘Cause I don’t really feel you
Where is your heart?
What I really want is to believe you
Is it so hard
To give me what I need?
I want your heart to bleed
And that’s all I’m asking for
Where is your heart?
Where is your heart?
Where is your heart?
Where is your heart?


“A Moment Like This”

What if I told you
It was all meant to be
Would you believe me,
Would you agree
It’s almost that feelin’
That we’ve met before
So tell me that you don’t think I’m crazy
When I tell you love has come and now…

A moment like this
Some people wait a lifetime,
For a moment like this
Some people search forever,
For that one special kiss
Oh, I can’t believe it’s happening to me
Some people wait a lifetime,
For a moment like this

Everything changes
But beauty remains
Something so tender
I can’t explain
Well I maybe dreamin’
But ’till I awake
Can we make this dream last forever
And I’ll cherish all the love we share

For a moment like this
Some people wait a lifetime,
For a moment like this
Some people search forever,
For that one special kiss
Oh, I can’t believe it’s happening to me
Some people wait a lifetime,
For a moment like this

Could this be the greatest love of all
I wanna know that you will catch me when I fall
So let me tell you this…
Some people wait a lifetime

For a moment like this
Some people spent two lifetimes,
For a moment like this
Some people search forever,
For that one special kiss
Oh, I can’t believe it’s happening to me
Some people wait a lifetime,
For a moment like this

OHHHH, LIKE THIS

OHHHH, YEAH, ‘cuz people search for every moment yeah.

Some people wait a lifetime,
For a moment like this.

Ohhhhh, like this.


“Before Your Love”

I wonder how I ever made it through a day
How did I settle for the world in shades of gray
When you go in circles all the scenery looks the same
And you don’t know why
And I looked into your eyes
Where the road stretched out in front of me
And I realized

I’d never lived
Before your love
I’d never felt
Before your touch
And I’d never needed anyone
To make me feel alive
But then again,
I wasn’t really livin’

I’d never lived…
Before your love

I wanted more than just an ordinary life
All of my dreams, seemed like castles in the sky
I stand before you and my heart is in your hands
And I don’t know how
I’d survive without your kiss
Cuz you’ve given me
A reason to exist

I’d never lived
Before your love
I’d never felt
Before your touch
I’d never needed anyone
To make me feel alive
But then again,
I wasn’t really livin’

I’d never lived… before your love
I’d never lived… Before your love

And I don’t know why
Why the sun decides to shine
But you’ve breathed your love into me just in time
I’d never lived
Before your love
I’d never felt
Before your touch
I’d never needed anyone
To make me feel alive
But then again
I wasn’t really livin’

I’d never lived
I’d never lived
Before!…
Your!!…
Love!!!…


“Addicted”

It’s like you’re a drug
It’s like you’re a demon I can’t face down
It’s like I’m stuck
It’s like I’m running from you all the time
And I know I let you have all the power
It’s like the only company I seek is misery all around
It’s like you’re a leech
Sucking the life from me
It’s like I can’t breathe
Without you inside of me
And I know I let you have all the power
And I realize I’m never gonna quit you over time

It’s like I can’t breathe
It’s like I can’t see anything
Nothing but you
I’m addicted to you
It’s like I can’t think
Without you interrupting me
In my thoughts
In my dreams
You’ve taken over me
It’s like I’m not me
It’s like I’m not me

It’s like I’m lost
It’s like I’m giving up slowly
It’s like you’re a ghost that’s haunting me
Leave me alone
And I know these voices in my head
Are mine alone
And I know I’ll never change my ways
If I don’t give you up now

It’s like I can’t breathe
It’s like I can’t see anything
Nothing but you
I’m addicted to you
It’s like I can’t think
Without you interrupting me
In my thoughts
In my dreams
You’ve taken over me
It’s like I’m not me
It’s like I’m not me

I’m hooked on you
I need a fix
I can’t take it
Just one more hit
I promise I can deal with it
I’ll handle it, quit it
Just one more time
Then that’s it
Just a little bit more to get me through this
I’m hooked on you
I need a fix
I can’t take it
Just one more hit
I promise I can deal with it
I’ll handle it, quit it
Just one more time
Then that’s it
Just a little bit more to get me through this

It’s like I can’t breathe
It’s like I can’t see anything
Nothing but you
I’m addicted to you
It’s like I can’t think
Without you interrupting me
In my thoughts
In my dreams
You’ve taken over me
It’s like I’m not me
It’s like I’m not me

Happy Father’s Day

We often rant on about how mothers are important in our lives and forget the sacrifice of our fathers and the roles they have played in our lives. He dedicated all his enjoyment just to get us a good life and give us a head start. Perhaps, this is because fathers tend to be less expressive than Moms and are often reserved in nature. Even if this is the case, we should not undermine the sacrifices he has made and the love and tender care he has showered upon us. Someone has rightly said – A father carries pictures where his money used to be. Today, in the materialistic lifestyle, we often become so engrossed with our little families consisting of spouse and children that we overlook the simple courtesy of saying thanks and express our gratitude to our old men.

His little girl

Nice to meet you

Daddy’s Love

Guess what i am dreaming?!?

I am safe with you papa

Its not about the fish son….

The kiss

Strength of a Father’s Love

The whole world

A Daddy’s Love

FATHERHOOD

F . A . T . H . E . R . S
F : Faithful.
A : Always there.
T : Trustworthy.
H : Honoring.
E : Ever-loving.
R : Righteous.
S : Supportive.

Tell me who you see^^

…take me as I AM, or leave me as
you see ME

...i will not change just to satisfy
another


…i will not bow down just because
i feel as if i am a lesser person

…i will not allow anyone to break
my spirits anymore

…GO ON AND JUDGE ME
…GO ON AND IGNORE ME
…I DON’T CARE!

…i’ll live my life that way i feel
i should

…i’ll handle my business if i needed
to

…i’ll take responsibility for any
mistakes that i make

...but i will not let another being
get the BEST OF ME

…i’m not gonna lie to myself
…i’m not gonna pretend

…i’m only going to be ME, from NOW
til I DIE

…and if you can’t handle it, then
let go of me…I CANT PLEASE ANYBODY

…ACCEPT ME FOR WHO AM I!

Mica Rules^^

Happy Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is celebrated with lot of enthusiasm in over 46 countries across the globe. To understand this holiday and what it really means, you need to understand the person in your life called Mother. This is the day to stop, remember, and pray for that special person in our life.

Mother and Child connection..

Kisses…

Just hanging out…

Mama’s boy…

Laughter…

her favorite place…

Just us…

and here we are….

I LOVE YOU MAMA!

Mom’s smiles can brighten any moment,
Mom’s hugs put joy in all our days,
Mom’s love will stay with us forever
and touch our lives in precious ways…

The values you’ve taught,
the care you’ve given,
and the wonderful love you’ve shown,
have enriched my life
in more ways than I can count.

Happy Mother’s Day Mama!

Cry of a Wounded Heart

Cry of a Wounded Heart

Don’t get too close, I might fall for you.

I don’t want it to happen because you’re my friend.

I know your intention is good; befriending me is all that is.

But your presence bothering me

Since I’m from heartbreak

You have shown me genuine importance

That is really melting my heart.

Your simple jokes and laughter

That teases me now and then.

Your smile, oh…how sweet!

Takes my sadness away!

I feel so special, whenever I’m with you.

Many are jealous when I’m close to you.

I have a little secret that I can never share.

I always did admire you

Your one of a kind, very rare

Indeed.

Oh my friend, I love you but please keep your

Distance…

If only I could tell.

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